The Hijacked Mind: Healing a Society in Trauma

 

Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

Healing-the-Hijacked-Mind-Artwork-by-Arturo-Leal-via-artlc.deviantart.com--248x330The hijacking of our minds and our consciousness with fear-based societal manipulation is the foundation for many of our most deeply rooted beliefs and perceptions. The institutions of our society are designed to produce fear, stress and trauma via manufactured systems of power, governance, education, religion and finance (just to name a few) — all of which serve to propagate institutional instead of personal power. And, while we are spiritual beings having a human experience, we are human after all, and our psychology and biology play compelling parts in our behavior and reactions to those manipulative stimuli.

By having an awareness of how the hijacked brain works, we can learn how to heal and recover these sensitive “fear based” areas, deepen our awareness of our own personal evolution, and help to heal a society in trauma.

Amygdala Hijacking

There is an area of the brain known as the Amygdala, which is responsible for creating our flight/fight response to perceived threats and overwhelming situations. It is a necessary evolutionary tool for our survival, creating an immediate emotional fear response that steers us clear of genuine threats. But it does not react only to the present, it reacts to the possible future, the threat of what may happen, the worst case scenario.

We do not fear the unknown… We fear what we project onto the unknown.

There is also a term used in psychology known as an “Amygdala hijacking” which is described as a way of deliberately eliciting “emotional responses from people which are immediate and overwhelming, and out of measure with the actual stimulus because it has triggered a much more significant emotional threat”. Or in simpler terms, keeping people afraid. In the natural world, fear is a temporary response that causes us to remove ourselves from (flight), or change (fight), a certain circumstance. Fear hijacking, however, creates a sustained fear response, by continually stimulating the Amygdala’s perception of the threat.

In this article, I want to talk about what happens when Amygdala hijacking becomes a permanent situation — a situation we and our society find ourselves in today — and how we can begin to heal from our own worst fears and nightmares.

Indeed, much of this has to do with biology and our natural “fight or flight” reactions, which are beneficial tools to help keep us alive, but it also helps to understand how our environment and conditioning plays a role in stimulating the fear-wired portion of our brains. Once we begin to understand and make peace with our own fear triggers, we can begin to clear and purify the damage caused by widespread institutionalized Amygdala hijacking, and take conscious control of the part of brain that may be clogged with intentionally fear-inducing outside stimuli.

Objectifying Fear

Like all unresolved emotions, a clogged “fear filter” in the brain can cause energetic build-up and blockages in the biological body; which may result in dis-eases such as depression, anxiety, addiction, substance abuse, anger, tension, guilt, shame and apathy (just to name a few).

The problem with the cold and heavy emotion of fear is that fear itself also has “consciousness”, intruding on our experience of self, depending on how we filter fear through our psyche and our bodies (including the physical body.) We subconsciously hold onto fear, even defend and protect it. It fuels our addictions, anxiety, depression, and negativity in general, especially if we still hold the tension of unresolved emotion in our physical (cellular) body.

To overcome our fear, to take away the power of fear consciousness, we have to learn to “objectify” it. It’s important to understand that fear has its use, to warn us of impending danger – such as fire, wild lions, or moving vehicles – however we’ve learned to live with an unnaturally elevated level of this natural emotion, due to outside manipulations. Through the mainstream news media, we are exposed to stimuli daily that encourages us to live in fear; of impending war, of environmental disaster, of terrorism, of crime, of financial crisis, of disease, and even of each other. And most of all, we are taught to fear death, and therefore, to fear life itself. We adhere to countless rules, knowing our livelihoods depend on it, and see signs constantly throughout the day warning us of this and that. Then, many of us wind down by scaring ourselves rigid with a movie, or a thrill ride, or a kill-or-be-killed online game. As a result our bodies, our subconscious, and our consciousness are constantly responding to an unnaturally high level of fear-inducing stimuli.

Healing-the-Hijacked-Mind-2

Stimulated by the distorted focus of the ‘reality’ presented to us, the Amygdala’s reaction is to initiate flight/fight responses in the body, and because we can neither flee what we fear nor fight it off, the energetic and subconscious result is a background hum of unresolved fear. Although most of us have gotten used to it, the biological fear response alters our perceptions and keeps us “on edge”, coloring our emotions and our choices. In this way, prolonging a general sense of fear in people is a perfect tool of would-be controllers.

The Natural State

When we go against Natural Law, intentionally or otherwise, we create emotional imbalances. Today, such imbalances are deliberately instilled; an escalating consequence of the individual and collective “fear hijacking” that compels us as a society to live outside the bounds of Natural Law. For reasons we barely comprehend, we create plastics for short-term use, which never break down. We turn to chemical poisons instead of ancient natural remedies in hopes they will improve our health. We poison our air, soil and water supplies with toxic industry and agriculture. We declare war our own species over the differences in our spiritual/religious experience, and over non-renewable energy and resources, while suppressing non-polluting energy sources that might replace them. And we consume more of the Earth than the Earth herself can sustain.

Our natural state is not to live in such “dark”, imbalanced energy. And as we continue to consume of the Earth, ignoring the principles of Natural Law, our energetic imbalance consumes us, and also consumes our planet; our Mother.

We live in an electromagnetic universe. Our unresolved and imbalanced emotions are a huge part of the chaos we see all around us. And it’s our responsibility to clean up our own “energetic” mess! If we look at the biology of our elevated “fight or flight” dilemma, and understand it as a consequence of fear hijacking, then we can begin to see the need for emotional clearing, so we’re able to clean up our energetic mess from the inside out.

It’s a confronting process and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly, but this is our karma; we all have this responsibility to our Self, each other, and Planet Earth. Our trauma and shadowy experiences tend to hold on for a reason — they hold a lesson for us — so it’s a profound and healing journey to get to the root of our actions and reactions.

In this process, it helps to focus not on the negative — on why we have been influenced with this fear, or who is responsible — but on the positive — on taking responsibility for our own well-being, happiness, and the embodiment of our spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical journey. The who and why of the mass fear hijacking of humanity become irrelevant when we take control of our own being; when we face the root of the fear at its source instead of band-aiding our traumatic and unreleased, imbalanced experiences.

The Tree of Life

Our bodies are an intricate design of brilliant architecture and none of it is by accident. It is through the physical and energetic body that we access the unseen and connect to the “unified field of Consciousness”; the universal library of information known throughout time, culture and religion as The Book of Life, The Akashic Record, The Tree of Life, or the Unified Field of Consciousness.

1424218016_5c9cWhen we think of the unseen — our collective psyche, stored experiences, emotions and unresolved “traumas” — as being stored beneath the roots of our proverbial trees, in the Earth herself, we can begin to imagine that we, through our physical “seen” bodies, are the key to accessing these depths… with caution and care. By accessing the Tree of Life, we activate our connection to the vast unseen, beyond fear and trauma, and begin to find balance and heal our wounds at the roots.

When we begin to examine our fear response, what we find at the roots of our own personal tree is a deeply motivating force that underlies our entire life experience, including dis-ease of the mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical “bodies”. But, if we can build an understanding of how we experience fear in its many faces and forms, we can begin to undo the cellular and energetic damage caused by our subconscious, biological reactions to fear.

Conditioned as we are, seeing our fears from a new perspective is something that we have to actively look for, at least at first — but when we do, we can begin to affect our unseen energetic roots, which in turn affects how we bloom ‘above ground’. Inside our roots — our DNA — is all of the genetic knowledge that has accumulated over all of our respective lifetimes, both individually and as a collective. The wisdom of the Tree of Life is embedded within you, waiting to be discovered and expressed.

Our inner voice is always there if we choose to listen, but listening is also learning to quiet the blocks created by the unprocessed fear that needs clearing in the first place. The “catch” is also the chase. When we (finally) emotionally connect with the root of our fear, there will be a clash of energy and the base emotions of grief. When this energy begins to move, we often look for a replacement or we tend to go back to our fearful patterns, until we find a place of fearless acceptance.

A gratitude practice, meditation, or journaling (or a combination thereof) are all greats way to begin to appreciate the depths of our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical nature. Where we find resistance is where we need to nurture ourselves and our perspectives with more loving intention.

We Are Evergreen!

To truly connect with the Tree of Life, we must learn to be a part of it; to live and abide by Natural and Universal Law, instead of choosing to remain “victims” to the fear-inducing system that hijacked us in the first place. The system will fail because it wasn’t created according to the Natural Laws of Creation — that is a given. But, as eternal spiritual beings, we must recognize that we are also having a very “human experience” here, which requires that we face the effects of the “energetic mess” we have collectively created, in order to transmute it for the future.

Remember, everything in this journey is a process; an evolution. Our perspective is always changing. We have to give ourselves permission to be happy, prosperous, healthy and whole, while we also do the work of facing our personal and collective shadows. Only by allowing ourselves permission to truly heal and truly be whole — aware of light and dark, the seen and the unseen — will we be able to interact with our own “mess” in an objective, constructive way.

We have everything we need withIN; all of the Love and all of the wisdom we need. The Earth is ancient and our DNA is ancient, filled with the knowledge of the Universe. There is an answer to every question and a cure for every dis-ease — and we begin to find them, when we connect with The Tree of Life and begin to care for it, by learning to care for ourselves (and each other) in deeper and deeper ways.

Listen to the wisdom within you and embrace the beautiful gift of being human, in all its emotional complexities.

Just like life itself, we are Evergreen!

moki

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

Thank you for stopping by Blueprints for Butterflies!

Further reading from Jennifer Deisher:

This article © The Moon Hippie Mystic.
Top image: “Anxiety” by Arturo Leal on DeviantArt.
Center image: “Deliberation” by Mario Sanchez Nevado
Tree of Life image: Source unknown

 

 

Empathy and Ubuntu ~ a Philosophy for a New Humanity

Ubuntu-Empathy-the-New-Paradigm-for-HumanityBy Jennifer Deisher

Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

Here we are on our beautiful blue green planet, travelling through time and space, hurtling toward infinity. Whether we realize it or not, we are united by our humanity.

As we each begin to flow into our spiritual journey, we become aware of a consciousness beyond our rational 3D comprehension. We begin to question everything we think we know about life and reality. We de-construct the illusions around us, and come to a new understanding of our place in the universe and beyond. And this new awareness is both liberating and extremely confronting, all at the same time.

Perhaps things are not quite what they seem.

The Hierarchy of Needs

We can understand our most basic human needs, and also our higher spiritual needs, through the psychological tool known as Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs [i]. The bottom of the triangle represents our most basic physiological needs and the top represents our own Self-actualization or Self-awareness (which, not surprisingly, is represented by the “all-seeing eye” at the top of the proverbial pyramid.

A common belief is that we are spiritual beings having a human experience, and that our full potential is realized through the practices of love and empathy, and the Ubuntu philosophy. And that’s true! But we can’t ever forget that we are also human too. We have simple biological and emotional needs – such as food, water, and a sense of safety – that must be met in order for our very survival, and although there are a handful of spiritual ‘leaders’ in history who were synonymous with fasting and poverty, for most of us, we can’t even begin to understand our potential for Self-actualization or Ascension until those basic needs are met.

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

So as messengers of a new paradigm, our challenge is not just to focus on the development of ‘higher’ personal aspects such as creativity, self-esteem and self-love, but to embrace and support those whose basic (and therefore spiritual) needs are not fulfilled, and help them create the sense of security and belonging they need as stepping stones to self-actualization.

Rainbow Day of Love

My friend, Deb Augenbaugh, decided to do just that when she recently started the non-profit organization Rainbow Day of Love to help feed the homeless population in her home town of Denver, Colorado. My husband, Aaron, and I had the honor of volunteering with her start-up organization this summer, and what we learned was a real lesson on our spiritual journey.

We came out on a Sunday morning to serve breakfast and as soon as breakfast was finished the group immediately formed another line for the next meal. Lesson #1: The sense of insecurity associated with unfulfilled physiological needs is ever-present, and does not go away with just one full belly. The tragedy of this situation is that these peoples’ lives are being spent trying to provide for their most basic physiological needs – quite symbolically, at the very bottom of the pyramid. In other words, they spend the whole day meeting the physiological needs of food, water, and shelter, while the rest of us take such necessities for granted and, as a society, waste the very resources these people so desperately need access to.

That Sunday morning, we struck up a chat with some people after breakfast and heard so many personal stories – war veterans, parents, college graduates – all who have experienced great hardship but are still living to tell their stories. Lesson #2: Survival instincts are hard-wired into our biology, including own need for safety. We each share the same primal instinct to live, and it’s a most natural response to do what we need to do in challenging circumstances in order to meet our most basic physiological needs. And although we may at one time be surrounded by friendship, safety and self-confidence in our lives, our physiological and safety needs that begin to go unfulfilled (whatever the circumstances) directly impact our sense of self and belonging.

Lesson #3: When we let people know that they are valued with something as simple as as smile or a hug or a question, the uplifting affect that loving connection has on their life-force (and yours) is both visible and immediate, sending ripples out into conscious universe.

A Collective Problem

As spiritual messengers and spiritual beings, we cannot speak of empathy if we are seemingly at a level of Self-actualization looking “down” at the reality of others, and dismissing their difficult experience as “creating their own reality”. But in truth, this limited perception is not based on reason or actual experience. We are ALL creating our own reality – and that creation includes a social hierarchy which is competitive by design, and therefore exclusive (to some) by result. If we – humanity – are to ascend to a new way of living, the only way to do that is TOGETHER. And yet our collective tendency is ignore their situation, and in big cities, even step over them in the street. We look to governments to “solve the unemployment problem”, which is an inherent part of our economic structure, and moan about the takers from the “welfare state”.

Not exactly conducive to a sense of safety and belonging, is it?

In reality, the majority of people living in poverty are – like the rest of us – incredibly intelligent, talented, creative and often educated people who have contributed to society, and who today are forced to use their talents and creativity just to sustain life; to survive. And that’s part of the “tragedy” – with basic needs met, their intelligence and creativity could be an amazing asset to our society! But while our society’s focus remains competitive not communal, a sense of belonging and self-realization takes a back-seat to the necessities of life for many people, and our spiritual life-force continues to vibrate on “survival” mode. While people are held by poverty at this base level of awareness, there is little room in their reality for other forms of safety, love, esteem, or self-actualization.

As enlightened beings, we have to be willing to see through the rationalizations of “the homeless problem” and our fears and misconceptions of “the homeless”, and begin to see that they too are spiritual beings who are desperately in need of our love, understanding and support.

The Empathy Card

Empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

Science is finally beginning to understand what many of us have always known; that we humans are soft wired with empathy [ii]. It’s in our genetics. When we say “soft wired” it means that it isn’t a reflex like a knee jerk or a flight-fight response, rather it’s up to us to consciously exercise and utilize our empathy ‘muscle’ so we can gain a better understanding of our collective journey.

The second of the Seven Universal Laws, the immutable Law of Correspondence, tells us “As above, so below; as below, so above”. [iii] This means that we have an individual journey and a collective journey, and they are interconnected and correspond with one another in infinite synchronicity; that our outer world reflects to us our inner world; that what we choose within, we choose without.

Will you choose empathy and compassion? Or judgment and inaction?

We cannot consider ourselves a compassionate, intelligent, creative race of people until we change our relationship with homelessness and poverty in our society, and on our planet. There is certainly plenty to go around. According to http://www.worldhunger.org [iv]

The world produces enough food to feed everyone. World agriculture produces 17 percent more calories per person today than it did 30 years ago, despite a 70 percent population increase. This is enough to provide everyone in the world with at least 2,720 kilocalories (kcal) per person per day  according to the most recent estimate that we could find (FAO 2002, p.9). The principal problem is that many people in the world do not have sufficient land to grow, or income to purchase, enough food.

Harmful economic systems are the principal cause of poverty and hunger… Essentially control over resources and income is based on military, political and economic power that typically ends up in the hands of a minority, who live well, while those at the bottom barely survive, if they do.

As we confront the reality of increasingly harmful economic systems and government priorities, the social and spiritual inequity embedded in our social systems can seem near-impossible to overcome.

But it isn’t.

Real, lasting social change begins as an impossible creative spark in our hearts and minds, and manifests in our society from the ground up.

not-yet

Don’t Believe It’s Possible?

For those who believe homelessness is an unsolvable inevitability, take note. Since 2005, Utah has reduced homelessness by 74 percent and is on-track to end homelessness by 2015. [v]

How did they do this? Simple. They gave homeless people homes.

Why? Because it makes good sense, even in our competitive economy-driven society.

The obvious benefit is that, by satisfying the physiological and safety needs of marginalized people, they can begin to focus on ‘higher’ needs and rebuild their sense of esteem and belonging. But from a purely economic standpoint, providing permanent housing for the homeless is not only more humane than our system of competition and criminalization – it’s cheaper. [vi]

Utah policy makers realized that the annual cost of hospital and prison stays for homeless people was around $16,670 per person, compared to $11,000 annually to provide each homeless person with an apartment and a social worker. So the state of Utah addressed the basis of homelessness by giving away apartments, and assigning case-workers, as part of the state’s new Housing First program. As a result, Utah is saving money overall, while allowing all residence access to shelter and safety, a place from which other needs can begin to be met.

So far, the program has proven so successful that other states are modelling future programs on Utah’s success… and all it took was some clear, creative and compassionate thinking.

The Essence of Ubuntu

Ubuntu is a philosophy originating in Southern African that means literally “human-ness” or “humanity”. The term is used to represent a humanist philosophy or ideology, known as Ubuntuism, which is based on the universal bond of sharing that connects all of humanity. In our society, which institutionalizes competition instead of co-operation, this idea can seem like quite a paradigm shift. But Ubuntu is more than just a lovely idea, it is the communal foundation on which many cultures are built, ensuring the base needs of all individuals are met and freeing them up to pursue ‘higher’ needs of creativity, problem solving and self-realization.

As consciously evolving beings, we understand that we lift ourselves by lifting others, and that we can’t begin to uplift our world and our planet if we are personally unwilling to empathize with and empower the people who are most marginalized, and whose connection to Self and Source is most hampered by circumstance. When we add the Ubuntu philosophy into the mix, along with our pyramid of needs, we see the much bigger picture. It is about more than just empathy from afar. Instead of just looking at our reality from our individual, albeit empathetic perspective, we must acknowledge our connectedness – that “I am because we are” – and be guided by that knowledge into actions that reflect it back to us. “As above, so below”.

I came across this quote from Shakespeare the other day which says it perfectly: “Fatigue makes cowards of us all”.

We have been riding this wave of ascension for some time now, shining light into the shadows… and many of us are tired. But now isn’t the time to rest. Our collective awareness is expanding, and momentum is gathering.

When you feel that fatigue, look for motivation to those living lives of poverty and uncertainty, whose entire being revolves around providing their most basic needs for survival – and consider the kind of fatigue that comes with that. When you feel that tired feeling that all “conscious warriors” feel at one time or another, remember that “I am because we are”… remember the power you have to generate positive ripples of change, starting with your immediate world… remember that the spiritual ascension of humanity is a collective process… and remember that we don’t just begin to heal others through altruism, we begin to heal our society as well as those pieces of our Self that are asking to be seen through our mirror of experience.

Then, from this compassionate and open place, we can begin to find new ways to fulfill, uplift, and inspire one another – to “enlighten” each other in the truest sense. We can begin to hear each other and meet each other’s gaze, get to know what makes each other tick. We can begin to fulfill each other’s most basic, fundamental, physiological needs, and ultimately overcome the unnecessary suffering of poverty and homelessness – without waiting for our failing, unprincipled governments to do it for us.

So, next time your paths cross with a brother or sister in need, it may be time to see if you can get to know them a little better, and see what makes them tick. Homeless people don’t need our advice on how to get a job; they need food and safety, and a connection to others – the very first steps toward self-realization. But more importantly, they (and we) need a new social system; one that reflects our human oneness and better serves and reflects our commUnity. And in creating that new social model, the perspective of those homeless and disenfranchised people who live on the edges of our current system is invaluable.

We all have a very significant role to play in the conscious evolution of our planet. We have the capacity to break the pattern of our “reality” as we know it, and leave a legacy of love and inclusion for our children, and their children. But first, we must change the way humanity feels about itself, and to do that, we must be able to look ourselves in the mirror and see our shared humanity reflected back at us.

References:

[i] ‘Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs’ is a theory proposed by psychologist Abraham Maslow in his 1943 paper “A Theory of Human Motivation“.

[ii] Ted Talks: “Jeremy Rifkin on the Empathic Civilization

[iii] Tania Kotsos: “The Seven Universal Laws Explained

[iv] http://www.worldhunger.org: “World Hunger Facts

[v] http://www.nationswell.com: “Utah Is on Track to End Homelessness by 2015 With This One Simple Idea

[vi] “Homes Not Handcuffs: The Criminalization of Homelessness in U.S. Cities” – a Report by The National Law Center on Homelessness & Poverty and The National Coalition for the Homeless

 

This article adapted for Wake Up World by Andy Whiteley.

Diamonds in the Sky

Diamonds in the Sky

21st August 2014

By Jennifer Deisher

Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

A “diamond planet” was discovered in late 2012 and I’ve been fascinated by it ever since I heard about it – but didn’t really know why. As with most things recently, I wonder why these things stick out in my mind and therefore, what it was offering me on my spiritual journey. Then I put it together when I read an article from Forbes magazine about the diamond planet and the monetary “value” that was placed on it – $26.9 Nonillion (which is 26.9 followed by 30 zeros).

Here is a quote from the article I’m referring to “There is no doubt in my mind that it would be quite valuable for those of us on earth to be able to mine The Diamond Planet and sell its raw diamonds. Naturally, there is a question of whether all that supply could be absorbed by the market.”

The concept that humanity has any right to consider mining this far off planet for diamonds and selling them here on Earth is not only arrogant, it demonstrates our skewed priorities and the extent of the illusions that make up our disintegrating reality. Diamonds are only considered “valuable” because our society attributes a specific value to them. The perceived monetary value of the ‘diamond planet’ serves as a distraction from our true nature – curiosity and scientific enquiry about this amazing discovery.

For many of us today, we have forgotten where we come from and our true Divine Nature. I know that I had, and it’s been quite the journey finally “remembering” many of those things; those Universal truths. The process has pushed my mind to the “brink of insanity” and back again, and somehow, I always come back to myself, finding peace in my heart’s connection to Mother Earth.

Honoring the Divine Feminine

I have a very strong connection with Mother Earth and Grandmother Moon, and my awakening has been very “feminine” in nature. But, we can’t have Life without both aspects – yin/yang, masculine/feminine, night/day. As with most things there is “duality”, and the duality that I’m referring to right now is the God/Goddess elements of our spirituality.

I have read a great many things about this duality, and specifically about how many calendars used to be both Solar and Lunar. As we moved away from recognizing the Lunar aspect of time in our calendars, we have also moved away from the Lunar side of our spirituality – the Goddess, or Divine Feminine.

The Goddess is the intuitive side of our nature. She is our feminine aspects; the side of us that nurtures, that forgives, shows compassion, and is guided by emotional intelligence. She respects life and the Earth, has the power to heal, and a loving “maternal” instinct toward others. Respect for the Goddess energy is what has been missing from our society – and from ourconsciousness – for so very long. And she is trying very hard to get our attention.

Diamonds in the Sky - starWe are all one in creation and Mother Earth is no exception. She provides everything we need to live abundant and sustainable lives. She is generous and plentiful, but she also must be seen and respected as such. She will provide us with all of the resources we will ever need, if we work with her natural flow instead of against her; if we acknowledge her being and co-exist with her. But today, we as a species have taken what she has offered us, and more, and put a monetary value on it. We systematically compete for her abundance, as though it is scarce.

Scarcity or Abundance?

Of course we all need money to survive, right? Well, I say wrong. We need the Earth to survive, and she has provided us with everything we need to do so. I mean, we can’t eat money right?

Money is only a representation of an energy exchange. On its own, it’s not a bad concept. The problem is that our current monetary and resource systems have been corrupted. A culture of scarcity and competition – instead of abundance and cooperation – has been deliberately cultivated, while mechanisms like fractional reserve banking ensure that wealth is funnelled away from the general population and into the hands of a few power brokers. Our nation’s “leaders” are at war with one another over land, money and oil, and it’s happening as we speak.

We have taken so much from our Mother without giving back, and we have reached the point in our relationship where our acquisitive behavior will no longer be tolerated, so to speak. We have created a system that is no longer working for Mother, or humanity, and it’s collapsing all around us as we speak. When enough people wake up to what is happening – and it’s coming – we can begin to reclaim and rebuild our societies in alignment with our true nature: our beautiful Mother Earth.

Beautiful Mother

I often wondered how we could ever place a monetary value on gifts of life from nature, such as food and water. Why so many must go hungry when our Mother has provided plenty for all of us, if only we would cooperate.

I often wondered why I didn’t have the freedom to live where I wanted on this beautiful planet; why I was “restricted” to a certain area just because of where I was born. Am I not free to roam, to explore, to see all the gifts of Mother Earth? Why does someone else get to decide where I can go?

What isn’t working for you?

Right now we have the opportunity and the obligation to ask ourselves – What we can do to break the cycle that is no longer working? What does our beautiful Mother need from us, in return for her sustenance? What do we want and need our societies to look like going forward?

It is all of our responsibility to open ourselves up to these questions. Until we show reverence for our Mother Earth, she will be sure that we continue to see and hear and feel her. She will rumble and roar until we look up to See her and ask her what she needs to thrive.

As Mother Earth continues to realign herself to a higher vibration, we are in a unique position; we have both the power and the need to manifest a new reality together, creating something new, different and beautiful.

We are diamonds, and it is our job to take care of our Mother who has provided us with sustenance and life.

We are diamonds, and it is our job to make sure that no one around us goes hungry or without shelter, or natural freedoms, or love.

We are diamonds, right here on Mother Earth, and it is our responsibility at this time in history to shine bright with our inner light and change our very reality.

See her, feel her, taste her, smell her, and LOVE her.

See, feel, taste and love EACH OTHER!

We don’t need to mine diamonds from the sky. I already see diamonds… everywhere!

Previous articles by Jennifer:

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

Thank you for stopping by Blueprints for Butterflies!

Copyright © The Moon Hippie Mystic.  All rights reserved.  You may copy and distribute this material as long as you do not alter it in any way, the content remains complete and you include this copyright notice.

This article adapted for Wake Up World by Andy Whiteley and Jennifer Deisher.

 

Lost at Sea…

indigo-children-20121

Let’s speak about a very big issue in our society which is extremely uncomfortable and I believe goes unspoken about in relation to the trauma it causes.  It is with great difficulty that I write this today because it’s a hot button issue not only for myself but for the majority of the people who come to us for Life Coaching.  I want to bring some clarity to childhood emotional abuse and the fallout it brings to a child’s Spirit and mental health.  There are very few people in our society who have had a “Leave it to Beaver” childhood which means that most people these days have suffered some form of abuse but for some reason we think of emotional abuse as “no big deal”.  I’m here to say that it IS a big deal and the trauma from this kind of abuse goes unrecognized for the most part due to the fact that there are no marks or bruises to say “someone is hurting me”.  There are many parents out there who have fallen victim to emotional abuse as children and don’t realize how deep the pain and abandonment go so it continues to be passed down from generation to generation.  When one suffers from emotional abuse they learn that Love=pain which means their Blueprint is upside-down.  An emotionally abused parent finds a precarious path when parenting solely based on what NOT to do so I would like to bring some insight into this type of abuse.  I would like to preface this by saying not all parents who “emotionally abuse” their children are bad people rather they are just as lost sometimes as the children they are raising.

As parents we need to understand that no matter how low our self-esteem or deep our insecurities our children look at us as their Creators therefore, to them, we are Everything!  Parents are “Gods/Goddesses” to their children and when a child suffers from emotional abuse it creates the deepest kind of trauma.  It is a most intimate form of violation when we raise our children in fear, anger, guilt, judgment, neglect, discouragement, indignity, scorn, shame, lack of communication, ridicule, jealousy, criticism, and/or resentment.  Our children are never “consequences” of bad decisions or bad relationships and it is most unfair for a parent to lay this kind of emotional burden on a child.  It’s equivalent to asking a child to hold the weight of not only their world but the weight of the parents world on their shoulders and this clearly can’t be expected of a child.  Our job as parents is not to create a “mini me” who represents all of our ideals rather we are here to mentor their Spirit so they can find their own Gifts and their own way.  It is not for us as parents to Live vicariously through our children by putting our “rules” and expectations on them when we Live in a Limitless world.  We are there for guidance, safety, and consistency so that they can feel Safe and Loved which brings Balance and Self Worth.  We speak of bullying in school but we how often to we stop and question where it begins, and it Always begins at Home.

The most common traumas that are induced from emotional abuse are low self-esteem, abandonment, and an extremely intense fear which sometimes manifests itself as anger.  The way we treat our children is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves making it a guilt-filled journey for parents who are emotionally abusive to their children.  This is why it’s so difficult for them to look at the wake of damage being done up close and personal.  It’s an endless cycle of emotional manipulation, projection, and deflection which leaves the child longing for some form of validation and consistency.  Parents who neglect or abuse their children emotionally are typically in a strong “victim” mentality therefore they cycle between abuse and guilt always looking for a reason to play the “victim” once again.  Most people that are in “victim” mentality refuse to recognize that they are projecting their emotions onto their children this way, complicated by the fact that many of them were also emotionally abused.  It takes the “victim” to recognize that they were a victim at some point or another and begin to deal with the pain and trauma surrounding the “event”.  Most emotionally abused parents who are also emotionally abusive are despondent, disconnected, distracted, and “weary of parenting” when most likely they never learned to care for themselves the proper way – much less a child.  They fail to understand that a parent is more Valuable than anything else in a child’s Life and that their Positive, Loving influence is crucial to the child’s emotional development.  The “abused/abusive” parent may not feel Worthy of the Love the child brings if they also learned that Love=pain.  Many use their children as the excuse to be a victim because they are stressed out or tired of “dealing” with the child because the child becomes a glaring mirror of what the parent doesn’t want to see in themselves.  They tend to look away rather than face the Truth which is compounded by the empathy and intuition almost every parent has at their disposal.  The real tragedy is that the parent is so consumed by having their own emotional needs met instead of focusing on the needs of the child, emotionally and otherwise.  I want to reiterate that because it is VERY important…the parent is consumed with having their emotional needs met above the needs of their child!  An abused child cannot help but feel abandonment and as such it becomes a continuous cycle of searching for Safe Love and in turn pushing it away to make sure it will come back.  The child becomes detached and alone leaving them to tread water in an endless sea of darkness yearning for the parents Love and approval.

When a child is emotionally abused it is the tendency to begin to act out and look for attention which they falsely mistake as Love.  They become so used to negative reinforcement at home that they begin looking for it in all areas of Life including school and relationships.  Once the child reaches an age of “accountability” the abusive parent typically begins to “give up” on the child due to the child’s destructive and angry behavior.  When this happens the abuser,  aka the “victim”, now has every excuse to continue the abusive behavior because the child is acting out and now they can “blame” the child for the mess, even though the behavior was incited by the abusive parent in the first place.  The child feels alone and feels as if there is no one they can count on to “have their back”.  The child is acting out because they are treading water, terrified, and screaming for help in whatever form it comes.  They literally have their hand up and are screaming for rescue in the form of that which they do not understand – Unconditional Love.  The more abandoned the child feels the more intense they will act out because their ultimate goal becomes pushing the parent away to find some sort of Trust in the parent/abuser.  There are no physical marks or scars so the child senses something is off but doesn’t understand what it is since they learned these things from Birth.  Emotional abuse is a slow, chronic process that eats away at the psyche of the child leaving a trail of broken promises behind for the child to reconstruct without the proper tools to do so.  The cries for help intensify as the child grows older if they cannot find the emotion of Love and Acceptance from the abusive parent.  These children will look for “love in all the wrong places” and when they find it they tend to push it away to avoid the pain that comes with their perception of what Love really means.  They learn that Love is inconsistent and has all kinds of “conditions” and oftentimes will become “addicted” to seeking and winning approval from the abusive parent even to the extent of rejecting other people in their Lives that Truly Love them.

It’s much easier for the parent to Heal and begin to parent their children from the Heart than it is for the child.  The child suffers much longer due to the endless quest for Love=pain provided the parent doesn’t begin to teach them they are Unconditionally Loved.  Neglect is also a form of emotional abuse and comes in the form of not nurturing a child and/or their emotions.  Abusive parents are inconsistent and as such the child is left to “walk on eggshells” because the abuse usually alternates between the parent’s Loving presence and the “victim” who presents themselves as the abuser.  A child is a “Godlike”, Spiritual presence in their Innocence and their Love for ALL but abusive parents literally steal their children’s Soul like a blood thirsty vampire.  What a parody of extremes when a child Loves a parent and is utterly terrified of them at the same time without Truly understanding where the fear comes from.  The marks, bruises, and scars are evident only to the child who is left confused and unable to comprehend their fear.  Neglect and abuse come in many forms including unreasonable expectations, anger, excessive punishment, physical and emotional neglect, lack of communication, bullying, name calling, Parental Alienation Syndrome (which involves a parent “bashing” another parent to the child – http://moonhippiemystic.com/2012/10/06/what-is-parental-alienation-syndrome/), and negative reinforcement.  It’s so important to talk to our children about their thoughts and feelings and to spend time interacting with them free from the distraction of television, computers, or phones.  Abused children don’t understand how to express their emotions the proper way because they don’t understand the emotion of Love and the abusive parent doesn’t leave room for the child to express themselves in any way, shape, or form.  The child learns that emotions are “weak” because they don’t have the forum in which to express themselves even though the parent is expressing themselves in the form of the abuse or neglect.  The parent usually suffers from their own childhood trauma and/or depression, alcoholism, or some form of addiction even if the “addiction” is the abusive cycle itself.  The “parent” is then replaced by a victim who enables the child to “raise themselves” due to the parent’s overwhelming guilt and the lack of emotional intelligence needed to face the consequences of the damage that is clearly evident.

A child’s needs are the same as anyone else’s wants in terms BEing seen and heard.  In other words, from an emotional aspect, what the parent may “want” the child actually Needs.  A child literally Needs Love to Survive and without it they become an empty shell longing for something they can’t even begin to put their finger on.  They generally grow up to lead a very lonely, perplexed Life resulting in an endless cycle of searching for Love and validation gaining momentum at every turn or “trauma”.  It’s imperative that a parent listen to their child, learn about their Hopes and Dreams, and Encourage them to pursue a Positive and Healthy Life.  A child should Always know that they are Safe and Loved Unconditionally.  It helps immensely if they are on a schedule so they know what to expect in their day as it helps keep them Balanced and shows the consistency they so desperately yearn for.  They Need Soul nourishment which can be accomplished by teaching them Happiness – yes, we actually have to teach our children how to be Happy.  There’s a great book written just for kids by my friend Patrick McMillan called “Discover Your Happiness Guide” which can assist in beginning the process of Teaching Happiness to our kiddos (http://www.amazon.com/Discover-Your-Happiness-Guide-Just/dp/1481191659/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377702711&sr=8-1&keywords=patrick+mcmillan+happiness) .  A child, by definition, is Joy and when they aren’t able to feel Joy or feel that they bring Joy to their parents they are unable to find Happiness.  Martial Arts is also a great forum and  form of therapy for children who are emotionally abused or bullied as it teaches them discipline, inner strength, philosophy, meditation, and anger management. Most of these children are extremely angry and it does them good to have a forum in which to express themselves.  Positive reinforcement is key as is learning how to talk to the child in order to get them to express their emotions. There’s nothing easier than seeing Life through the eyes of an Innocent child and the wonder they bring to everything they see or touch.  Another necessity is learning to communicate with the child as most abused children are terrified of making any kind of mistake and often view every mistake as a “failure” which is why they tend to lie about small things fearing they will get in “trouble”.  This way of thinking is brought about because the child gets in “trouble” for unreasonable things and is, on most occasions, punished excessively by verbal abuse, yelling, spanking, or “alone” time that goes longer than is necessary.  It is important to observe the child and their behavior because a parent can gain much insight into the patterns and begin to learn what the child’s “triggers” are in order to adjust accordingly.

There are so many sayings and quotations about Unconditional Love but the words are lost on those who have never experienced the Emotion of it.  We can talk and talk for eons about Unconditional Love but until the child and/or parent Allows themselves to REceive Love the words will fall on deaf ears.  The most important thing to remember is that it takes time, patience, and consistency to undo the damage.  It’s a process in teaching the child about Love, Trust, and Happiness which can only be proved by allowing the child time to adjust and room to “act out” their fears and insecurities.  The child needs to feel they have a Safe place to express their emotions because most of the emotions will be fear and anger based which makes it “uncomfortable” for the parent and others who are close to the child.  As the parent it is important to learn Emotional Intelligence in order to be a Calm, Loving, Consistent presence in the child’s Life.  It’s important for the parent to Forgive themselves if they are to make changes because without Forgiveness the cycle will continue due to the emotion of guilt that the parent typically carries with them.  The Truth is, in a Spiritual sense, we are ALL Worthy of Love and Forgiveness and it’s never to late to Begin Again.  If you are in a place to Begin Again, please do so, you and your child are Worth finding Love, Peace, and Happiness in Life.  Make it so!

An Old Cherokee Tale:

One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all. One is Evil.  It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’

The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.’

Music to drive it Home:

Blueprints for Butterflies offers Intuitive & Spiritual Life Coaching.   We are a husband/wife team who specialize in crisis situations as well as PTSD, depression, Parental Alienation Syndrome, and abuse situations. Please e-mail us at blueprintsforbutterflies@gmail.com for more information.

Copyright © The Moon Hippie Mystic.  All rights reserved.  You may copy and distribute this material as long as you do not alter it in any way, the content remains complete and you include this copyright notice.