Basketweaving 101~ Weaving Happiness into our Vibration

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Happiness is a factor of Life and one well worth striving for.  It’s a necessary component for us to completely embark on a spiritual path.  Our heart, soul, and spirit don’t live in the energy of “not good enough”, or where there isn’t enough time, or in our negative energy.  Let’s face it, some of us have had our fair share of addiction, trauma, and tragedy.  Those who have experienced some of the more “hard core” issues, or are currently working through them, may find that sometimes we have to work a little harder to find our Joy.

Many of us have experienced the fallout of what we sometimes call “the matrix”.  I prefer to think of it as limited patterns of controlling behavior which constricts our true power as creators because we think we have a limited amount of choices.  What we forget sometimes is that we actually have to learn or re-learn how to be Happy.  Many people are experiencing spiritual awakening or are in a deep emotional process of acceptance and release, or both.  The key is realizing that it doesn’t all just happen overnight.  We (typically) don’t just wake up to a massive pot of gold at the end of a rainbow one sunny morning, especially if we’ve had trauma, abuse, or addiction in our past.  Basically, happiness is a more natural state of being.  But, when we learn “misery” and limitation in its place, it also makes sense that we may have to learn how to be happy again.  To go even further, we may have to learn how to be happy for the very first time…ever!

Our fears, traumas, abuse, and addictions leave us feeling pretty crappy – it’s true.  It’s not necessarily something we embrace in the spiritual community of “love and light” but it doesn’t make the emotion any less real.  Sometimes the crappy feeling takes over our mind and body to such an extent that it takes great heart and soul effort to overcome them in an emotionally healthy way.  We all have (what we’ll call) “baskets” that we use for our emotions but this can also be detrimental to our recovery if we have one basket in which we place all of our emotions.  For example, if someone has an addiction which has had a very negative effect on their life, they may have an emotional basket labeled “addiction”.  Even when the person has freed themselves from their addiction they continue to carry around the addiction basket.  The anonymous programming of organizations like AA encourage people to carry this addiction basket around with them every day and it then becomes a foundation for all of the emotional baggage in life.  That means that whenever something feels off or wrong in life we can always put it in the “addiction” basket even though “what’s wrong” may have nothing to do with the addiction.  One day we wake up and find that we have chronically created a scapegoat for all that is wrong in our world and we’ve managed to fit it into one (very limited) “basket”.  The basket could be an abusive parent, an untrustworthy relationship, a deep seated fear, or even a financial “issue”.  From there, we tend to take everything we view as being “wrong” and put it into our trauma basket thereby giving our power away to our perception of this one issue as we continue to let it control our lives via our “negative” (uncomfortable) emotions.

d0d04af17343092ca6a5e4a9d15a4ac5Once we have created a basket for our negative experiences, it becomes a habitual pattern to continue to pile more negative experiences into our trauma basket.  What we sometimes fail to understand is that when we are constantly in a place of re-living our negative experiences we are also, however inadvertently, creating more negative experiences.  From here, it gets a little more difficult to find acceptance until we lay down our basket or weave a new one.  It helps to recognize that happiness is actually a learned behavior.  If we’ve been taught in some way to be miserable we can also learn how to be happy instead.  First of all, the fears, traumas, addiction, abandonment, etc. will still be there for a “minute” – regardless of whether or not we choose to focus on it.  It’s a part of our life experience so it never fully “leaves” us but our perception of it, the emotions around it, and whether or not we chose to let it define us can change, will change… if we allow it.  When we’re in the process of Healing from our afflictions, we are really coming to a place of learning to validate and appreciate those feelings which sees us not able to run away from them.  We actually have to allow ourselves to grieve in a healthy way but the emotions may cause us to have looping thoughts that revolve around our basket of misery.  This is when neuroplasticity or changing our mental focus plays a great role in overcoming traumatic experiences in order to Heal.  In these situations we have to learn to focus on our mental focus and find a way to weave happy, loving, blissful experiences into our basket at the same time.  Sometimes we find ourselves having to reach for these Happy experiences because we may not have very many of them or we forgot how it feels to be in a peaceful emotional place.  However, if we focus on happy experiences (past, present, or future) it takes us away from the tunnel vision of solely focusing on the trauma.

When we re-live our negative, addictive, traumatic experiences over and over again we have a harder time “snapping out of it” so to speak.  That’s not to say the issues aren’t real but we also have to focus on more positive experiences first before we begin to see them manifest into our physical reality.  At the same time, when we’re so deeply focused on the trauma we may not see any positivity in our lives even though it may be there in force.  What that ultimately comes down to is what we choose to focus on, our perspective, and whether we’re placing emphasis on a loving, positive, happy perspective or we place our spotlight on the fear, anxiety, and tragedy of the trauma.  This is the part we have to “work” at because our patterned emotions also want to remain, almost like its own “parasitic” energy.  It (truly) takes work to re-train our mental focus, especially when we are uncomfortable in our mind, body, and spirit.  This is where neuroplasticity comes in or “focus on our mental focus”.

60526c9a725effaf3c418ed87a24fc30In my article, Quantum Mechanics of the Soul, I wrote about behavioral patterns and how our awareness of our own patterns changes how we interact with them.  This means that just by being aware of our trauma basket we can begin to change how it affects us.   Therefore, our conscious awareness of the “problem” shows the Universe our intention of Healing from said “problem” which is the first step in the process, recognition.  From here we can begin to consciously interact with the emotions which is when we can shake them out and put them back again in a more positive way.  We’ve also determined that some of us have to “work” a little harder to find those happy, lighter, more loving emotions.  And, that’s okay – actually VERY normal when we are in “distress”!  A great way focus on our mental focus is an exercise I call “Emotional Imagination”.  We’re quite used to hearing that “thoughts create things” and that’s true….to an extent.  The real key to creating with the Law of Attraction is using our Emotional Imagination.  This is when we’re planning our Happiness in the form of a dream vacation, a purposeful job, a prosperous future, a loving relationship, our kid’s gifted accomplishments, a healthy support system, good weather, the perfect friendship, making a mind/body connection, and on and on we go.  As we Emotionally Imagine these memories it’s like a wave of Happiness washing up on our beach of “misery”.  Emotional Imagination is emotionally focusing on how we want to Feel instead of focusing on the “crappy” feeling, but it’s also really Allowing ourselves the opportunity to Feel Good.  The wave loosens the little, irritating grains of sand (what I call “ninja demons”) and it’s up to us to re-integrate these grains of sand on our beach as we let go of the “shock and awe” around our negative experience and embrace our Happiness in its wake. We’re creating the most beautiful sea glass, loosening and smoothing our sharp, jagged traumas until we are no longer giving them our energy….AT ALL!  And, we get to go to the most Amazing places while we weave a new basket into a new reality and a new (trauma-free) Life.

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

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OM Times – August Edition

 

Check out my article “Learning from the Shadow Within” featured on the cover of OM Times Magazine with Erich von Däniken.  Very Exciting! http://www.editions.omtimes.com/magazine/2014-08-b/index.html

The article is on page 94 or here is a direct link: Into the Deep – Learning from the Shadow Within

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

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Quantum Mechanics of the Soul

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Full Definition of QUANTUM MECHANICS:  a theory of matter that is based on the concept of the possession of wave properties by elementary particles, that affords a mathematical interpretation of the structure and interactions of matter on the basis of these properties, and that incorporates within it quantum theory and the uncertainty principle —called also wave mechanics [i] 

Let’s use the bridge between Science and Spirituality to come to an understanding of what I call “The Quantum Field of Consciousness” as it pertains to Healing the Soul.  First, let’s touch on the principles of Quantum Mechanics which is the study of physics as it relates to the microscopic field.  When we talk about wave mechanics we are talking about a very profound principle that sees wave particles change behavior based on whether or not someone is watching.  Think about that for a minute.  It’s like the “does a bear shit in the woods” theory or the paradox of Schrödinger’s Cat.[ii]  This means that when we become the observer or watcher of our own behavior, in that moment, we can also change the microscopic pattern of said behavior.

The emotions of the grieving process are relevant in our day to day “reality” as we shift and grow in Consciousness.  We see patterns that have developed which may no longer serve our deeper Soul Purpose so these patterns tend to come up when we fall into the mouth of questioning everything with Spiritual Intention.  The patterns are like waves and once we recognize the wave it changes its very behavior just by being seen and/or felt in the first place.  In that, our Spiritual Intention sees us becoming the observer of our own patterns of behavior all the way down to a quantum or microscopic level.  We can relate this to the Energy of our behavior and whether it is energetically “efficient” for our Soul and its Purpose.  The energy of this equates to a Spiritual process known as “letting go of attachments” or energetically inefficient behavior.

The Quantum Field of Consciousness

imagesI have a fun way of describing the Quantum Field of Consciousness so it helps to recognize that this is an old and Universal idea as well as a common thread throughout time and “religion”.   There are several names for this phenomenon and why I made up my own to incorporate them together, why not?  We’ve heard it called the Akashic record, cosmic mind, tree of life, and book of life depending on what you’re reading.  The gist is that all of our Earth experiences are recorded in the Universe and we all have access to these records in order to Heal.  In that, it’s sort of like an “emotional” Rolodex of our Experiences and incorporates Consciousness on both sides of the “veil”.  This means that when we pass we retain our Consciousness from our experiences “here” so the Healing can take place on a multi-dimensional level if we have an open mind and an open Heart.  As we Heal the Root of our Tree, otherwise known as the traumas that we endured in our Earth Life, we have the ability to Heal the astral realm[iii].  Like the air we breathe we can’t see it but we would not be Alive if we didn’t draw breath.  Just because we can’t see it doesn’t mean it isn’t there!

When we have trauma surrounding the death of a Loved one or unresolved traumas in our own Lives we tend to haul around unnecessary emotional and spiritual baggage.  This equates to the lower vibrational or more “dense” emotions that we find when we haven’t completed the ‘grieving’ process and come to a place of Acceptance.  Until we find Acceptance, Resolution, or a State of Grace we haven’t completed the “process”.  It’s a difficult issue to find sometimes as two of the prevalent emotions of grief are denial and bargaining which become more challenging when we begin to bargain with our own denial of the circumstances or “trauma”.  It helps to understand that none of us actually wants to be the STAR and “victim” in our own tragic story and we have a very big misconception about loss (especially loss in “death”).  So, if we can begin to find Awareness of our ROOT “traumas” we can begin to change our patterns on a quantum level first and then our physical reality by extension just by recognizing them in the first place.  For example, many people know the vibration of abandonment and it’s the most common “trauma” we find as Spiritual Beings having a human experience.  The vibration of abandonment shows up as the mentality of “go away and come here” at the same time never quite trusting that we won’t be abandoned once again which speaks of fear of abandonment.  If we can recognize the pattern of “go away and come here”, which is a Universal “mixed message”, we can begin to open our Heart again to the vibration of Unconditional Love of Self which will bring more Trust into our relationships.  It’s here that we see the Root which is the “abandonment” rather than the effect which is the “unhealthy” relationship.

The Earth and Her Vibrations

LoveMotherEarth.jpg.w300h367As we free our minds from the “matrix” system of control we begin to see that we have abused our planet in a multitude of ways.  We know the “issues” in front of us and have an awareness of what can be done to change it so we’re really talking about these things in our communities when we have the opportunity.  What we may not appreciate, however, is that the Earth’s vibration is connected to the vibration of humanity which includes the astral realm.  This means that to truly Heal the planet we must Heal ourselves by way of recognizing our own baggage and finding the root withIN.  As our negative, dense, lower vibrational emotions consume US they also consume our planet, our Mother.  Add to that the misconceptions in our society about “death” in regards to what happens when we cross over and we’ve got a lot of unresolved “trauma” on both sides of the “veil”.  The key is we can still find Acceptance and resolution in our relationships on a multi-dimensional level by way of forgiveness or letting go of the “negative” emotions and/or attachments.  Simply by acknowledging the existence of the Quantum Field of Consciousness we change how it behaves and how we connect with it.

For example, if we’re thinking of a Loved one we automatically get a feeling whether it be Love, anger, longing, resentment, shame, and/or guilt (just to name a few).  This is the Rolodex of Experiences that are recorded withIN and in the Quantum Field so it’s more than possible to connect with others via what I call “Emotional Impressions”.  We can FEEL these relationships and if we can FEEL them we can also HEAL them!

Healing the Tree of Life

OjkqhyIThe awareness of Quantum Mechanics of the Soul allows us to begin to change our lower vibrational patterns just by becoming Aware of them.  Now, we can also throw some Spiritual Law into the mix to drive it Home.  The Universal Law of Correspondence tells us “As above, so below; as below, so above”. This means that there is “harmony, agreement and correspondence” between the physical, mental and spiritual realms. There is no separation since everything in the Universe, including you, originates from the One Source. The same pattern is expressed on all planes of existence from the smallest electron to the largest star and vice versa. All is One. The Ancient Greek Temple of Apollo at Delphi was referring to this great Law of Correspondence in the inscription “Know thyself and thou shalt know all the mysteries of the gods and the Universe”.[iv]

When we Heal our own Root we also Heal our relationships.  Simply put, if we have resentment toward a family member who has passed away we are still tied to them through said resentment.  More importantly, they are still tied to us through the same resentment so by holding on to the resentment we see our Loved ones ALSO not “ascending” completely even though they’ve passed.  This is how we begin to see how we keep ourselves locked in the lower vibrational patterns while also holding onto unhealthy attachments for both parties.

If we’re not sure what to do when it comes to being of service to the planet and humanity we can start withIN and heal our Root in order to heal the Tree of Life.  When we heal the root we heal Self and the astral plane while also raising the vibration of Mother Earth and the rest of Humanity by extension.  As we amplify our own “State of Grace” we raise our vibration to one of Love setting in motion the Butterfly Effect of Healing across the entire interconnected Universe.  We find ourselves in a higher and more objective emotional place where we are in a more Universal flow of energy.  We gradually become more energetically efficient, emotionally intelligent, and spiritually enlightened just by caring for and nurturing Self and the root of our very own Tree.  At the same time, we are being of service to the planet and all of humanity just by Healing Self and our relationships – on both sides of the veil!  It’s a Spiritual Mission should we chose to Accept it and an important part of our shift into a *New* era of Spiritual Enlightenment.  We can Heal the Root by acknowledging the Quantum Field of Consciousness and our own Soul “mechanics”.  Heal the Root and the rest will follow…

[i] http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/quantum%20mechanics

[ii] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IOYyCHGWJq4

[iii] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Astral_plane

[iv] http://www.mind-your-reality.com/seven_universal_laws.html#Part_2

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

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OM Times Magazine – July 2014

Check out my article “Releasing Toxic Relationships” featured on the cover of the July 2014 issue of OM Times Magazine:

http://www.editions.omtimes.com/magazine/2014-07-a/index.html

http://omtimes.com/2014/07/releasing-toxic-relationships/

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

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Stop, Look, and Listen: Healing a Society in Denial


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By Jennifer Deisher

 

Beliefs can become patterns if you hold them long enough. People don’t like to have their belief systems challenged as sometimes they are the very foundation used to “survive”, emotionally speaking. Today, something is obviously not working, yet we still struggle with the idea of confronting and releasing our old conditioning and beliefs, healing, and making real change.

At this point in humanity’s history it seems that there are many who are desperately hanging on to an antiquated social belief system, many aspects of which they don’t even realize exist or affect them. Our social programming goes very, very deep; it is attached to our sense of Value, and Self. And it is in the shedding of this outdated programming that we find the ability to expand on the Heart and our relationship with Self, and know what is best for each of us individually, and authentically.

I see people everywhere who are beginning to awaken to the world around them and, as much as I try to avoid labels, many experiencing a kind of ‘Stockholm Syndrome’; the psychological state of identifying with one’s “oppressor”, in whatever form that oppressor takes. It could be in the form of a physically or emotionally abusive relationship, or addiction. It could be the controlling societal conditioning we have been subjected to or the lip service we’ve accepted from our “governments” who falsely tell us they have our best interests at Heart. It may be any any imposing influence that leave us feeling “less than” in some way.

It takes a great deal of resilience to be Awake in this world; we see an apparent lack of integrity almost everywhere we look, and it can be difficult to maintain a sense of clarity in among all the confusion, the dichotomy, as we try to talk and walk two different paths. We hear our “leaders” speak of integrity and priorities on a daily basis, yet we watch as people struggle in poverty and hunger, and wars are started in our names. And rather than admit this abuse, a failing of the status quo, many still protect and defend it, and mock those who threaten it.

Where is the integrity in their words? And where is the integrity in our actions? 

 

The Demon of Denial

What we lack, as a society and a species, is acceptance and accountability. Collectively speaking, we are still in denial. As Einstein said “we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them” and until we – including our leaders – acknowledge that this isn’t working, we’re stuck with the old way of thinking.

If we take a moment to reflect honestly on our Life we will see where our most deep seated fears have come to fruition, either in their physical reality or by living in it in the first place. By the same token, we will see where our deepest and most Loving desires have also come forth into our realities. When we allow ourselves, we find the answers within; we understand our bigger picture.

But on the whole, we are quite busy Living in the “demon” of denial. It is a difficult thing to go withIN and find Accountability for our own collective ills when we have been taught to accept judgement and social inequality as normal, to the point that many don’t even realize they’re even seeing it, or doing it. A dangerous dynamic is playing out around us, and all it takes is a willingness to open the mind and the Heart and consider a new perspective to see it. But many would rather stick to the program, and even defend and justify it, because it’s more comfortable and familiar than the idea that we have been lied to.

It may feel like threading the eye of a needle. But the truth is, we have ALL the Power. We Always have… and that itself can be a tough pill to swallow at first. We have accepted less for so long.

But resentments are dangerous things. They don’t lead anywhere positive, rather they take us on a long and treacherous journey into the dark side of the Soul. In order to Create something New we have to stop pointing fingers and placing blame and guilt where it doesn’t belong. When one lives in guilt, blame, and resentment it is not Living at all. There is no Creative energy in this place, no air, no place to go. There is no guilt or blame in ‘the bigger picture’. Energetically we are just playing out our collective programming, and the sooner we release that programming and fill the space with Love, the sooner we can begin to Thrive and Grow into our authentic Self, both individually and collectively.

Through the Eye of the Needle

In order to fit through the eye of the needle and release the old programming, it begins with realizing its existence in the first place.

We are deeply in denial, a society that doesn’t acknowledge its accountability – for systematically destroying one another and our planet in the name of progress, money, religion, and oil. Even after looking down the Rabbit Hole, I have trouble wrapping my head around the extent of it – kids being shot at school, war (especially “holy war”?), bullying, hunger, poverty, ecocide, banking scandals, mismanagement of funds, the withholding of our Constitutional Rights to Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness… The list goes on. Yet most people go on and on about their daily business not once thinking to stop and question what’s happening around them.

Instead we look to the same systems that harms us in the first place, for an endless supply of “fix it” remedies, solutions, distractions and comforts. All we have to do is look around to see something is very wrong and yet we deny it, put our heads back down, pretend it isn’t happening, and get back to “work”. Maybe “someone else” will fix it.

Personally, I’m going to set an example of transparency and accountability in my life. I haven’t lived the life of an Angel. I’ve run the gamut of all the things that are “wrong” with our society and it’s really hard to pick just one. I spent 6 years re-appropriating myself to “reality” after I was medicated to the edge of my Soul with anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medication, and pain killers. It nearly killed me. A doctor gave me a prescription once when I was supposedly “depressed” and it went from there, as more and more pills were added to the mix so that I could “function”. The pharmaceutical industry was making bank while I was so medicated I could barely function, let alone Live as the Divine woman and mother my Spirit wants me to be.

Stop Look and Listen - Society in DenialWhen you’re IN it, you can’t see it – and that is the True definition of “insanity”. Yet, here we are doing the same things over and over again, calling it “reality” and expecting a different outcome.  I don’t know about you but this isn’t the “reality” I choose for mySELF or my precious, intelligent, beautiful children.

The psychiatrists and medical industry has labeled every emotion as some sort of disorder and then convinced people to take a pill and it will all “go away”. But it doesn’t work that way. It just doesn’t. Nothing is that easy… but it is. Just not how we’re taught. It’s about the Human Connection and the Human Spirit. It’s about Loving each other through it and BEing IN it with each other, free from the judgement we have been conditioned to heap upon one another. We’re like children doing what we’re “told”, and what we’re being told to do is disconnect ourselves from the bigger picture while corporations and governments dictate every aspect of our very existence. It didn’t even start in our generation – this energy has been been playing out for centuries. But it’s time we take responsibility for our own Welfare and the Welfare of those around us. Today.

Stop, Look, and Listen

We can’t continue to prolong the inevitable. We reinforce these failing ideals onto our children and each other; a tiny little box of limited and antiquated ways of thinking. We are helping our kids onto a ride that we know is broken. The economy isn’t working. Our energy technology isn’t working. Government isn’t working. Our healthcare system is broken, especially when it comes to mental and emotional health. Our education system isn’t working. It’s 2014 and we’re still debating issues of poverty, environment and equality?

Is this the kind of world we want our children to grow up in?

When our society accepts only what is reported through a single medium, it causes tunnel vision! When money is privately controlled, the financial system has failed. When religions have cynically been robbed of their Spirituality, it’s time to reconsider where we put our faith. We have an elitist system and every single one of us is responsible, whether we are actively participating in it, being a knowing “victim” to it, or standing by and watching it happening without action.

until we can be Accountable for our situation we cannot change our thinking. Accountability starts from withIN by releasing the things that no longer serve us emotionally – resentments, anger, guilt, shame, and judgement just to name a few. But to really boil it down, there are only 2 emotions from which all emotions stem; fear and Love. And if you take the time to look withIN, honestly and with Love, it’s quite simple to tell the difference.

Go Home, go INside and Listen to our inner knowing in an Honest way. Make amends with ourselves and our immediate families. Heal and Listen and Care for one another. In order to become Accountable we have to become Self-Aware and we can’t do that amid endless distractions. Block out the distractions and question the propaganda. Face your denial with compassion. We have to find Peace and it starts from withIN.

The Heavens and the Earth are speaking to us in every moment. God is withIN and without meaning it comes from the inside out. Jesus taught it. Buddha taught it. Mandela taught it. Regardless of labels, all of great leaders, philosophers, and Spiritual teachers teach the same thing. We are the Creators and we are Creating this “reality” and will continue to do so as long as we deny the Truth. Unconditional Love is the only answer and it starts from withIN. To Love God is to Love SELF and Accept the hardship of those around you so we can Heal our planet and each other.

It is ALL of our responsibility to pick up where our government, economy, and healthcare systems are failing us. We are the ones we have been waiting for, so let’s swallow the jagged little pill and get on with it. There are no labels. There is no money. There is no judgement. There is only Home and Heart. Peace and Love. Compassion and Empathy. The Spirit is here and it Lives withIN each and every ONE of us, and our planet. It is the only Home any of us know.

Have the courage of Heart to see and hear what may BE uncomfortable. Ultimately, the Truth is a Beautiful Gift to receive. It is only our authentic Emotional experiences and insights that will help us Unite and Heal our wounded Hearts.

I Love you all so very much and look forward to our making it through the Eye of the Needle together.

In Love and Unity,

Jennifer

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

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Healing the Trauma Drama

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By Jennifer Deisher

Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience, and when this happens we often take an emotional “snapshot” of this moment, living and re-living this detrimental emotional experience. As exhausting as this can be, it is here that we will find a great Key of transcendence – it allows us to look a little further withIN that trauma, and release some of the deeper social, psychological, and spiritual “programming” from separation and judgement. This process is especially important when we feel separated from Self; when we judge our own underlying emotions that stem from our trauma.

We never need to look any further than right Here – where YOU are. When an underlying trauma leaves us feeling discontent with others or society, it is withIN that we find all the answers we need. As a matter of fact, our answers are coded right into our DNA.

We’ve all experienced something “negative” in our Lives, whether it be in a physical, psychological (mental), emotional, or spiritual aspect. One of the most common experiences is the perception of abandonment, because at a higher level, we are ALL experiencing a newer awareness – including that of separation. As spiritual beings having a human experience, we are Oneness, separated by form, and our increasing perception of this Truth is allowing us to uncover and heal the underlying trauma of separation.

The bottom line is this. If we haven’t made it ALL the way through our pain and found a Loving space for ourSelf on the other side, then we will continue to re-Create our energetic struggle. Over and over and round and round we go, doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results (the definition of “insanity”). When we learn to Overcome our trauma – by goingthrough what we are used to going around – we find Love for Self and a more complete Healing. We find acceptance, knowing that we can never be any less than whole, even as we experience the ‘separation’ of this Reality and the feelings of abandonment that can come with it. We make peace with our perfect imperfection.

The Only Way Out is Through

We learn, for the most part, that “God” resides somewhere outside of ourselves, dictating our Lives in some way, shape or form. But as we evolve, our preconceived ideas of what that means are literally being turned upside-down. We are seeing that we are the “God” of our own individual Universe, the Divine creators of our own Reality, shaped by our physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual bodies. We are realizing that “God” is our Higher Self – our connectedness – and putting our Trust and Faith into this realization. From here, we can see that the drama of our trauma doesn’t have to be so dramatic after all, as it’s leading us to the ultimate prize of release, letting go – Acceptance.

The most important thing to remember about dealing with trauma is that, at a fundamental level, we are searching for a way to have our Emotional needs met, in order to move on. We are ultimately trying to find a Safe emotional space where we can be comfortable with our experience and our emotions, and feel comfortable expressing them.

While we are in this process we must keep in mind that our emotional needs aren’t “unhealthy” – they are a Truth of this Reality – but we may be avoiding them, or trying to meet them in an “unhealthy” (and unsatisfying) way by doing harm to Self or others. This is a very common theme; we project these emotional needs onto others and expect them to fulfil us… which is, of course, quite impossible. It just sets us (and them) up for “failure”, which causes us (and them) to be traumatized all over again. The people in our lives can only provide a Loving support system while we work through our emotions.

Ultimately, Self is the only one who is experiencing Self’s emotions, so in order to Heal we must meet our OWN emotional needs. As we put our Trust and Faith in our Higher Self, we can begin to work with the damage and confusion on a more Spiritual level, which brings significantly more accessible results. When we begin to look withIN, we can begin to be Honest with ourselves about our emotional needs and how these needs effect our Lives in the bigger picture.

The Mirror of Perception

Every person and situation in our lives is a mirror. They reflect to us our perception of Reality, and the bigger picture of what we are trying to Learn about Self. This means what we love or hate or fear “out there”, or in another, is what we really love or hate or fear withIN. We wouldn’t know hate and/or fear if we didn’t have it in our possession, withIN.

Healing the Trauma Drama - The Mirror of PerceptionIn order to transcend the negativity we perceive “out there” we have to Love it into submission, right “in here”. Our seemingly negative emotions reflect an absence of the energy of Love, so in order to rid ourselves of them, we must LOVE them, shining a light on the Shadows within. From there, we begin to forget the negativity surrounding our trauma and can approach it from either a Loving standpoint or, even better, we can get to a place where we no longer put energy into it at ALL, as we (finally) move forward.

It takes great commitment and courage to face what one truly hates and/or fears withIN. These feelings are extremely uncomfortable. The illusion tells us that we are incomplete, fragmented, or broken but the Truth is that we can never be these things in Spirit. It’s only our judgment that tells us our emotions are “wrong”. But it’s from this place of great vulnerability that we find our greatest Strength. Heaven is a mindset and a way of BEing, rather than a place or an emotion that can be met by another. When we stop repeating our cycles of emotional trauma and projecting our emotions outwardly, we stop doing harm to ourselves and others, and create peace and safety withIN ourselves.

When we fill our Shadows with light, they all but disappear. 

Embracing a process of Healing opens up an emotional vastness that covers all ends of the spiritual and emotional spectrum. This is where we really begin to heal from the pain and trauma caused by this Reality. By understanding and Loving our entire spiritual and emotional body, we are able to Connect with Self and others in a most profound and expansive way. The Gift, and what makes it worth the process, is our own personal brand of Heaven that comes from withIN and then transforms our reality (without).

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

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Let it Rain – Finding Gratitude in Grief

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I Love the rain. I always have. Maybe it’s because Water is my element. Maybe it’s because I’ve had sorrow in my Life and the rain is fresh and rejuvenating. Maybe it’s because Spring is my favorite season. Maybe it’s because I want to feel Pure and Clean. I wish this was the type of rain I was talking about today, but what I’m talking about is the rain that pours from the Heart, the Soul, and the eyes. This rain is grief.

Grief is a very common process that we go through when we have had a loss or trauma in our Lives. This grieving process is a normal, natural process but it can become very difficult if we don’t accept it and allow ourselves to work through it. Oftentimes, we allow ourselves to grieve the loss of a Loved one but we forget to allow grief for Oneself, whether that loss comes in the form of death, separation, or REnewel – as is common whilst we evolve from negative emotions that may have kept us stuck.

We’ve all had trauma in our Lives at one point or another but the key to overcoming trauma is to get to the root of it and give permission for SELF to grieve – which can be the most difficult part.

We all have a Higher Self who is right on the other side of the veil, and who only has our individual best interests at Heart. When we deny ourselves the important process of grief, we truly become detached from ourselves and our emotions, so it’s beneficial on a Soul level to Allow the energetic process of grief to ensue if it needs to, because it’s not worth the trauma that’s caused by keeping it inside.

I AM Grateful for grief and its process because it allows me to know that I AM Alive and that I have Loved and been Loved.
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This is grief.  This is sorrow and you have to know that you will grieve and be prepared for that so you can begin to Heal.  This is a process that isn’t easy but will be made more difficult if you don’t allow yourself to go through it the proper way.  By not allowing yourself this necessary process you will only prolong it but it also helps to understand it and what to expect.  You are grieving and you will do so until you are finished and no one will know how long that will take, especially you.  You can’t expect to just “be done” with it because it is a vulnerable, delicate time and will only make it harder.  There will be times when you will feel as if you are okay only to find 2 days later that this may not be the case and we should nurture ourselves as much as want to wish it away.

You will be in denial because your mind is having a hard time accepting this very different reality but it will slowly allow you to access the other emotions involved as you are ready.  You will be angry because you are in pain and because you miss your friend.  You will be angry because you are scared of what your Life will be without this dear Soul to turn to.  You will feel somewhat helpless because of the circumstances and this is called “bargaining” because it will make us feel a need to control certain things.  Part of this need to control is because there is sorrow behind this and once the mind is finished masking these other symptoms you will feel very sad and this is painful.  This is where it’s tricky and the avoidance comes in because it may feel like you want to release this sorrow but in order to do that you have to allow yourself to feel the pain that comes with it.

Sorrow is hard but it doesn’t have to be if you allow yourself to feel it Truly and the best way to do that is by honoring your friend and the Joy they brought to your Life.  The heartwarming moments that come to mind when you think of them in tribute are the key to mastering this process.  In these moments is where you will find your friend and, more importantly, their Spirit.  These are your memories and no one can take them away from you so you honor your friend by allowing yourself to remember them in this way.  These moments in time are forever sealed in the Book of Life, the Akashic Records, or the Cosmic Mind – however you wish to look at it.  The Love you have for each other is forever recorded in the Universe and will be there for all time.  This is where you will find your friend both here and “later”.

Allow yourself to feel the sorrow so that you can rejoice in the memories.  Allow yourself to cry the tears because it means you Loved your friend and you are releasing the pain that should not be kept inside.  You cannot remember the good times by avoiding thinking about your friend at all so in order to honor their memory you have to honor yourself in remembering.  Be forever Grateful for all of the memories in every moment that you think of your friend.

I will say to you that there must be rain in order for flowers to grow.  There must be rain to maintain balance on Mother Earth.  And, most importantly, there must be rain in order to know that you Loved your friend, they Loved you, and you will miss their presence in your Life.  I will say to you:

Let it Rain…

After the Rain comes the Rainbow and this is acceptance.  When you see the Rainbow you will know that your friend is just on the other side filled with Joy that you made the journey down this road together.  You will See and feel the Spirit of your friend and their Gratitude that you Loved them enough to remember and Honor them in this way, even though it caused you great pain and heartache.  Thank them for walking down this path with you and for being with you when you finally reached the Rainbow.  This is when you will know that they are always with you and will forever be a part of your Soul and you of theirs.  This is when you will remember where they are and where you come from.

Jennifer Deisher is the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog and has been published on several Consciousness and Healing websites including Wake up World and OM Times Magazine.

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