Grief is a very common process that we go through when we have had a loss or trauma in our Lives. This grieving process is a normal, natural process but it can become very difficult if we don’t accept it and allow ourselves to work through it. Oftentimes, we allow ourselves to grieve the loss of a Loved one but we forget to allow grief for Oneself, whether that loss comes in the form of death, separation, or REnewel – as is common whilst we evolve from negative emotions that may have kept us stuck.
We’ve all had trauma in our Lives at one point or another but the key to overcoming trauma is to get to the root of it and give permission for SELF to grieve – which can be the most difficult part.
We all have a Higher Self who is right on the other side of the veil, and who only has our individual best interests at Heart. When we deny ourselves the important process of grief, we truly become detached from ourselves and our emotions, so it’s beneficial on a Soul level to Allow the energetic process of grief to ensue if it needs to, because it’s not worth the trauma that’s caused by keeping it inside.
This is grief. This is sorrow and you have to know that you will grieve and be prepared for that so you can begin to Heal. This is a process that isn’t easy but will be made more difficult if you don’t allow yourself to go through it the proper way. By not allowing yourself this necessary process you will only prolong it but it also helps to understand it and what to expect. You are grieving and you will do so until you are finished and no one will know how long that will take, especially you. You can’t expect to just “be done” with it because it is a vulnerable, delicate time and will only make it harder. There will be times when you will feel as if you are okay only to find 2 days later that this may not be the case and we should nurture ourselves as much as want to wish it away.
You will be in denial because your mind is having a hard time accepting this very different reality but it will slowly allow you to access the other emotions involved as you are ready. You will be angry because you are in pain and because you miss your friend. You will be angry because you are scared of what your Life will be without this dear Soul to turn to. You will feel somewhat helpless because of the circumstances and this is called “bargaining” because it will make us feel a need to control certain things. Part of this need to control is because there is sorrow behind this and once the mind is finished masking these other symptoms you will feel very sad and this is painful. This is where it’s tricky and the avoidance comes in because it may feel like you want to release this sorrow but in order to do that you have to allow yourself to feel the pain that comes with it.
Sorrow is hard but it doesn’t have to be if you allow yourself to feel it Truly and the best way to do that is by honoring your friend and the Joy they brought to your Life. The heartwarming moments that come to mind when you think of them in tribute are the key to mastering this process. In these moments is where you will find your friend and, more importantly, their Spirit. These are your memories and no one can take them away from you so you honor your friend by allowing yourself to remember them in this way. These moments in time are forever sealed in the Book of Life, the Akashic Records, or the Cosmic Mind – however you wish to look at it. The Love you have for each other is forever recorded in the Universe and will be there for all time. This is where you will find your friend both here and “later”.
Allow yourself to feel the sorrow so that you can rejoice in the memories. Allow yourself to cry the tears because it means you Loved your friend and you are releasing the pain that should not be kept inside. You cannot remember the good times by avoiding thinking about your friend at all so in order to honor their memory you have to honor yourself in remembering. Be forever Grateful for all of the memories in every moment that you think of your friend.
I will say to you that there must be rain in order for flowers to grow. There must be rain to maintain balance on Mother Earth. And, most importantly, there must be rain in order to know that you Loved your friend, they Loved you, and you will miss their presence in your Life. I will say to you:
Let it Rain…
After the Rain comes the Rainbow and this is acceptance. When you see the Rainbow you will know that your friend is just on the other side filled with Joy that you made the journey down this road together. You will See and feel the Spirit of your friend and their Gratitude that you Loved them enough to remember and Honor them in this way, even though it caused you great pain and heartache. Thank them for walking down this path with you and for being with you when you finally reached the Rainbow. This is when you will know that they are always with you and will forever be a part of your Soul and you of theirs. This is when you will remember where they are and where you come from.
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