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Construction Zone: Inside the Adolescent Mind By Brian Francis

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“Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen.” -Albert Einstein

What goes on inside the mind of a teenager?

Sex, drugs, and rock n roll. Right? Well, actually that is proven to be somewhat scientifically accurate as adolescent is the period between childhood and adulthood in which vast physical, psychological, and social changes take place. We all know that by observing, but what is actually going on with the biology of the adolescent brain? Or more importantly, what is going on with our attitude about the biology of the adolescent brain?

“You WANT to work with adolescents?”

“Welcome to Adolescent treatment…”

“I could never do that. I would go crazy.”

“Why would you want to work with adolescents.”

These are daily comments I hear multiple times for working with young people. People applaud me as if I just found a cure for cancer or taking on a…

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Our Purpose is to Heal

10277171_391160761024041_4383272008399255608_nThere’s much going on right now. It’s easy to get caught up in the drama of it all. It’s easy to raise your hands to the Heavens and cry “Why?!?” or “Where are you, God?!?” Even if you’re awake and aware of the true nature of our being, these can be very stressful times. Even if you are one of the very fortunate people who understand that there is a Divine plan well under way, it is still a difficult time for humanity. We are all working very, very hard right now. It doesn’t matter if you are working on being awake or working on staying asleep (Yes, I see you “ego”), we’re all still just trying to work our way through the labyrinth of it all.

There are a great deal of atrocious acts being committed around the world right now but the darkness always shows us where we need to find our Humanity, our Balance.  Some of us are busy blaming other people for the tragedies that have happened of late. Some of us know that there are things that must happen for people to awaken and realign their souls to one another, the Earth (Gaia), God, and/or Spirit (depending on your unique expression). Some of us are questioning our Faith. Some of us are certain we are on the “right” path to a new social paradigm, despite (or because of) the chaos in our world. Some of us are thinking “an eye for an eye” by advocating committing more atrocious acts to make up for the atrocious acts that have already been committed.

It’s easy to forget why we’re here. Our purpose…

We Are One

What one thinks, we all think. We are ONE, intricate and delicate (more so when we realize) pieces of the Whole.  What we do to another is what we do unto ourselves, this is the mirror and what we know as empathy. Our purpose – right here and now – is to Heal. We are here to remember why we are here with each other and Mother Earth right now at this Divine time and place in our human history. We are here to heal ourselves and our Mother of our emotional and environmental scars, so that we can can evolve and flourish into a new paradigm. It doesn’t matter where you work, where you live, or how much money you make… It doesn’t matter what you believe or what “religion” you subscribe to… For there is only ONE true faith, and that is unconditional Love. In the end, we all want to live in peace and comfort, and we all want to love and be loved. It is the common thread that binds everything in the Universe.

We embrace our purpose of healing by healing ourselves first and foremost, and the way we heal is with Love. We heal one another by learning to trust and forgive with our hearts wide open. Through Love, we learn beyond measure that we are beautiful and valued. Through Love, we learn that everyone else we meet is also beautiful and valued. Through giving and accepting love, we heal ourselves. And through healing ourselves, we can increase the positive energy of Gaia’s morphological field.

But things become so overcomplicated sometimes when Spirit is actually quite simple.  In those times it does us all well to become, once again, grounded with Mother Earth. She whispers her answers in the wind. And she whispered to me today…

Healing the Trauma

There’s drama to get caught up in if we allow it.  If you’re here it’s, most likely, because you Feel the Shift in progress which makes us anxious for others to feel it, understand it and embrace it as well. But, we don’t want this Shift to come about by way of trauma and/or tragedy either.  We See humanity walking an inevitable path toward enlightenment.  We want Peace vs. war, Happiness vs. chaos and Love vs. fear.

For many of us, and I’m no exception, this sense of global chaos manifests as a deep-seeded trauma. And they ARE traumas! They cause us all to feel fragmented and at times fearful. Even if we say we aren’t going to let it enter our emotional field it still gets in.

Personally, I was led to the ancient Hawaiian healing technique of ho’oponopono, and I knew that this was the way simplest, most loving and spiritual way we could begin to heal from these latest traumas. It recognizes that, as the human race, we are collectively responsible for the situation we find ourselves in and speaks of Accountability, no matter how indirectly.  There are many other healing techniques that may also resonate for you. You may also like to read my previous article “Healing the Trauma Drama“.

If trauma is in your “field” at all, it is there for you to heal it. If it is in your emotional field then you are being divinely called upon to heal it. If it is in your mainstream news field, heal it. If you are in Syria, Russia, Gaza, Israel, the United States, or are caught up in their ‘war’ energy – heal it. If it is around you, within your energy field, it is there for you to heal. That is our purpose in this reality; to restore our energetic being to pristine consciousness, free of the energetic traumas that continue to feed the duality of our existence.

Humanity is rapidly evolving right now, in many ways but it’s not always possible to embrace it on a spiritual, genetic, social, and emotional level. We can’t always see it but we can feel it.  We need to have emotional intelligence right now, and that can only be found within. We are the ones we have been waiting for. We are a shining example of a Love that is so Divine it is beyond measure across the multiverse and *NOW* is when we are being called upon to apply it, to put our training and words into Action – walk the walk so to speak. Now is the time when we must come together – as one Humanity – and heal. We can send out vibrations of Love and rift the fragments of time into something beautiful and divine. We have that power. The power of unconditional Love. It’s the one thing that every single one of us has in common.

Everything you see and feel is a by-product of what we, humanity, together, have created. And if we consciously choose to, together, we can heal. If we do not, we continue to repeat the energetic cycles and will ever know what else is “out there”.

Together we can create Heaven on Earth, at one with Gaia and each other. It is our birthright. It is our beautiful future. It belongs to us. It starts with us. And it is simple…

I am divine. I am life. I am Love.

I am one with God, Gaia and Humanity.

I am healing me, healing you, healing me.

I am loving me, loving you, loving me.

About the author and instructor:

Jennifer Deisher believes the art of human connection has been conditioned into detachment from our True Self which consequently denies us the essential Blueprints of our evolution.  She founded BlueprintsForButterflies to help others connect with their Higher Self and create a spiritual foundation in line with their own individual energy signature. She is an Emotional Healer, Empath, Intuitive, and Spiritual Transformation Artist.  To book a session/soul reading or to sign up for Jennifer’s Creative Writing Workshop – Opening the Creative Channel WithIN please visit BlueprintsForButterflies.com.

 

 

 

Blueprints for Butterflies

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Hello Friends!

I know many of you have read our blog and even worked with us on occasion in the Awakening process.  We’re so Honored to be here and a part of this journey with all of you!  Recently we added some services to our site that we want to make you aware of.  We’ve had great success with our Soul Readings and Sessions and decided to reach a little further in letting everyone know that we are available as a Loving support system for anyone navigating the process of Awakening.  Please check out our services and/or e-mail us at blueprintsforbutterflies@gmail.com with any questions.  Thank you to each and every ONE of you for Honoring us by reading our blog and connecting with us on a Spiritual level.  It truly is a Gift!

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The road to Self-Awareness and Spirit is an Emotional journey.  Healing is not complete unless there is Emotional clearing.  As Divine Love enters our BEing it brings to Light all of our “egoic” programming and behavior that doesn’t resonate with Unconditional Divine Love.  Our “egoic” or fear-based patterns of behavior tend to resist that which it doesn’t understand and most often tries to prohibit the Soul’s Growth in clearing unnecessary Emotional “baggage”.  We can help!  See below for Services.

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Creative Writing Workshop – Opening the Creative Channel WithIN

Founder of Blueprints for Butterflies and writer of The Moon Hippie Mystic blog, Jennifer Deisher, has created a unique 6 week workshop designed to demonstrate writing techniques and exercises to strengthen your creative muscle.  There is a very symbiotic relationship between our Emotional and Spiritual embodiment which directly effects our Creative channel or outlet.  We all have the ability to access these artistic blueprints but emotional and physical obstacles can deny, or severely limit, this natural human expression. Accessing these channels of creativity can be tenuous to say the least. Balance between the mind, body, and spirit are essential to artistic creation. Whether you’re a seasoned writer or just beginning to explore your potential, my individualized techniques will help you become aware and enable you to process emotional, spiritual, and/or creative obstructions. This allows you the opportunity to design your own architecture of creative expression free from doubt, fear, and insecurity.

I will work with each individual one on one guiding you into your own ability in knowing how to open and close your creative channel.  The workshop will include daily and weekly writing assignments via e-mail but will also include skype sessions to develop a deeper connection. My unique approach speaks to the writer’s soul exclusively which will open the creative outlet to more aspects than writing alone.  Some of the writing assignments will be read by me and some will be personal but by writing I can see HOW you create and WHERE you are having emotional, spiritual, and/or Creative blocks.  In short, this is a HIGHLY Individualized PROCESS of opening the Spiritual and Emotional “channel” through Creative Writing.  The Goal and end result will be the ability to automatic write/create from a higher level, connect with YOUR Higher Self easily and effectively, and bring insight and clarity into the very emotional blocks that tend to choke our creativity and our Lives by extension.  We can get started and you can be on your way to writing it out for Self and others all while exploring the exclusive Blueprints for your Emotional, Spiritual, and Creative expression.

The start date is contingent upon the individual so we can start when you choose, one on one.  There are 3 different ways to get started.  See payment options below and shoot me an e-mail at blueprintsforbutterflies@gmail.com to confirm.  My skype name is blueprintsforbutterflies for the skype sessions involved in the Workshop.

Pricing is as follows:

If you would like to pay in FULL the cost is $250 (discounted rate).  Please click here:

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Otherwise the cost of the Workshop is $300 for 6 weeks of highly individualized instruction.  There are 2 other options for payment.  The first is two payments of $150 at the beginning and middle of the Workshop.  To chose this option click here:

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Heart-based Life Coaching Sessions

We actually don’t prefer the term “Life Coaching” rather we look at it as getting one in touch with their Over-soul in order to gain Emotional Intelligence that can be applied to ones daily Life.  We have a variety of techniques and believe in a highly individualized approach to leading the Soul on a journey to Self-Awareness.  Our “fear-based” mind sometimes keep us from our best, true Self and it’s a most difficult task to overcome patterns that have become a part of us but may not be in our best interests.  Each one hour session includes an Intuitive Connection via either phone or Skype.  After the session we will spend in-depth time gaining an empathetic and Spiritual Connection with your energy signature in order to gain additional clarity into emotional blocks and/or unresolved, fear-based patterns of behavior.  Within 48 hours you will receive a detailed, intuitive, and empathetic written reading from Jennifer that will unlock deep-seated emotional blocks and provide a Blueprint for emotional Healing.  To book a session please e-mail us at blueprintsforbutterflies@gmail.com for scheduling and for payment please click the “buy now” button below.

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Spiritual Awakening Sessions

There is a great paradigm shift happening in our World and on our Beautiful Planet.  Many are Awakening to find that there is something much bigger than they ever realized and are finding a new way to DO and BE.  On the flip side, Awakenings can be traumatic and confusing if it causes you to question everything you’ve ever known.  We offer Guidance and Support during this transition and can help one make sense of the Awakening Experience.  Each Awakening session includes an Intuitive Connection via either phone or Skype, typically 30-45 minutes.  After the session we will spend in-depth time gaining an empathetic and Spiritual Connection with your energy signature in order to guide you into your Higher Self and/or Spiritual Guides.   Every Awakening is different and individualized but the key is that it is Always Life-changing and can be a tumultuous time without a Loving support system. Within 48 hours you will receive a detailed, intuitive, and empathetic written reading from Jennifer.  To book a session please e-mail us at blueprintsforbutterflies@gmail.com for scheduling and for payment please click the “buy now” button below.

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3 Question Soul Reading

Ask us anything and we’ll give you an answer!  If you feeling “stuck” in limited patterns of behavior, having trouble deciding whether to end your relationship, or whether to take the new job we can help.  As Intuitives and Empaths we can bring clarity to some of those tough, Life-changing decisions by tuning into your energy signature.  We will send an in-depth written response within 48 hours and will be available for follow-up if the need arises.  To book a 3 Question reading please e-mail us at blueprintsforbutterflies@gmail.com with your questions and for payment please click the “buy now” button below.

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About the author and instructor:

Jennifer Deisher has been sharing her gift of emotional and spiritual Healing through soul readings and an ability to connect with others via intuition, empathy, and emotional experience.  A profound Spiritual awakening opened a creative writing channel that converted her traumas into artistic expression unlocking the authentic Blueprints of the Soul. Today, her unique insight and connectedness with Spirit allows her to guide others into their Higher Self where our own unique and individual Blueprints await discovery.

Jennifer believes the art of human connection has been conditioned into detachment from our True Self, which consequently denies us the essential Blueprints of our evolution. Driven to share her perspective with the world, her writing has been published on numerous websites around the world. She founded the website BlueprintsForButterflies to help others connect with their Higher Self and create a spiritual foundation in line with their own individual energy signature.

For more information please visit BlueprintsForButterflies.com.

 

Grow the Garden

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The Moon Goddess is a satellite of Loving energies.  She is known for her Femininity and graces us with Love and Wisdom.  “Grow the garden” she whispers in the night breeze.  Come to me.  See how I mirror your shimmery Light from Mother Gaia.  She is waiting for you.  She has a secret for you if you Listen.  Grow my garden.

Come to me, I’m Always here and I’m Always free…

The most Beautiful things grow from the deepest, darkest places.  Dig deep into the mud.  Dig the hole.  Plant the seed.   Give me your shame and we will plant a seed of Compassion.  Tell me your secrets along the rambling river.  Show me resentment and I will show you how to grow Forgiveness.  Feel my Light coming through the trees.  Let me show you where to plant denial so you will blossom with Truth and Light.  Climb my mountain.  Let me feel where you are weary and you will see how you have Persevered.  Pick the most vulnerable places and plant them in my garden.  Bury into me your guilt and I will teach you Accountability.  Bask beside the firelight and feel how I warm your Soul.  Where there is anxiety I will show you how to Breathe.  Sprinkle my Healing waters into the Earth and watch my garden burst with seeds of Joy.  When you find lack I will sprout in you the seed of Gratitude.   Listen to my voice in bird song.  Open me to your fear and I will teach you Courage of the Heart.  I am your Mother full of Wisdom who knows you better than you know yourself.  Dig deeply and plant the seed of ignorance so I may enlighten you with my Diversity.    My Light shines on your Innocence and your most vulnerable places.  Plant the seed of unworthiness and I will show you the Love that you are.  I See you.  You are Safe.  Unburden to me your addictions and I will bring you Freedom on the wings of Angels.  Know me, know you.  Feel my rhythms, for where you end we begin.  Bring to me your frustrations and I will ignite your Passion.  Dance with me under the Moonlight, Graceful ONE.  Tell me all your mistakes and I will tell of your Experience.  Sit beneath the willow tree and feel my Heart beating with your own.  Share with me your anger and I will dignify your pain.  Lay ye down in my pastures and feel my Spirit.  Reveal the places where you feel victimized and I will release your trauma.  Feel me flow through you like the mist on a light rain.  Bear down on me your burdens and I will teach you to let go.  Listen.  Be still and know.  Sow for me a garden and I will reap for you a Rainbow.

Come to me, I’m Always here and I’m always free…

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Music to drive it Home ~ Come to Me ~ Goo Goo Dolls

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About the author:

Jennifer Deisher has been sharing her gift of empathetic soul readings since her awakening, which converted her traumas into Experiences that unlocked the authentic Blueprints of the Soul. Today, her unique insight and connectedness with Spirit allows her to guide others into their True Self.

Jennifer believes the art of human connection has been conditioned into detachment from our True Self, which consequently denies us the essential Blueprints of our evolution. Driven to share her perspective with the world, her writing has been published on numerous websites around the world. She is also a media writer for The New Earth Project, and founded the website BlueprintsForButterflies to help others connect with their Higher Self and create a spiritual foundation in line with their own individual energy signature.  

For more information please visit blueprintsforbutterflies.com or check out www.newearthnation.org

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Into the Deep – Learning from the Shadow Within

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By Jennifer Deisher

Featured artwork by Stuart Griggs

It is most important in this journey to come into Balance with our shadow side and learn to Love this piece of ourselves that we may find unlikable or even unlovable. It’s actually quite sane and normal to fear this side of ourselves on some level due to the decisions that we sometimes make from this shadowy “place”. The fact of the matter is that we are wired to be “fearful” of our shadow side. This is why we have to be willing to be the distant observer of our fear, by learning to have a healthy respect for it and the reactions it can bring into our Lives, and understanding the decisions we make in fear may not be the most rational or objective.

Honest, intimate, and Loving connections can bring up emotional issues that are looking for Healing or release. It is this Light of Love that can shine on our darkest places, leaving us to face what we perceive as ugliness within ourselves. The truth is that emotional expression is a most beautiful form of Art that tells us everything we need to know about our spiritual complexities.

 

The Serpent in The Deep

We ALL have a “snake” or “serpent” – what we perceive to be a fear, insecurity, or weakness. Most people fear and “hate” the serpent just for being itself, and this in itself says so much about our egotistical, fear-based or “reptilian” brain, depending on how you choose to look at it.

When one comes face to face with these fear-based emotional complexities, it takes great discipline to be the distant observer of our “fight or flight“ reaction that happens automatically in these situations. Sometimes, when the shock value is high enough, we don’t have the option to sit back and observe. We are then left to experience our own personal brand of fall-out, in what are actually very normal, earthly REactions.

The Light in the Shadows

When we feel desire, it tells us where we have longing in our Lives.

When we feel angry it typically comes on the heels of some form of pain, and lets us know where we feel threatened or “tread upon” in some way.

When we feel lack, it is because we are working through a process of feeling there is something we once had but has now gone missing.

When we feel resentment it is because we feel violated in some way.

When we feel guilt or shame it can point to a place of conscience, where Self can be more Accountable to Self.

When we feel jealous or insecure, it tells us we feel fear of “losing” something or someone that is important to us on some level.

When we feel alone and abandoned, it is in our solitude that we find out what we’re made of as it’s only our perception that sees us “alone” in the crowd.

The list goes on and on…

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… but the gist is that our emotions tell us everything that our Spirit needs us to know about where we need energetic clearing or detoxification. Where we get into trouble is in thinking that our emotions and/or the unfiltered expression of those emotions is ugly or wrong somehow. When we accept this limited belief, we begin to settle for less than what our True Self seeks to have in our Life Experience. It forces us to push away the emotional expression of our “fear” – the very thing we are trying to express and shed in the first place.

Observing the Serpent

If we can find a way to truly be the distant observer of our “serpent”, we can begin to suck the “venom” out of its actions and reactions. When we suck the venom out of our fear, we don’t have to be afraid of its reactions or its tendency to sabotage anything Healthy that comes into our Lives. We Learn to Love our serpent just for being itself, and from here we can admit to ourselves when we’ve made subconscious, unhealthy decisions that negatively impact our Lives and/or cause “regret”.

Sometimes we need help or intervention with this, because many of our venomous ways were created in childhood, and we are very comfortable with the patterns of behavior that it created deep within us. But if we are unwilling or unable to recognize how our inner serpent REacts, we aren’t being True to Self and ultimately begin to settle — with Self and within our relationships.

The Key to navigating our journey Into The Deep is to remember that there is nothing wrong with what we perceive to be our “negative” emotions; rather it’s our job to dive in, explore the depths, and experience negative emotions – and in the process, to overcome this perception and learn to Love every aspect of Self.

Into The Deep -3- Artwork by Stuart Griggs - www.stuartgriggs.comWhen we Love our inner serpent that lurks In The Deep, it becomes docile and only bites when its very clear boundaries are being violated. From here, we can use the venom as medicine, to find Positive aspects and strength where we perceived negativity and weakness. When we learn to recognize our fear, we can grow and branch out like the Tree of Life, instead of continuing to run round and round on the “karmic wheel” of venomous decisions designed by the Ego to keep us from our best and truest Self – the fulfillment of our deeper Purpose. When we go Into the Deep and learn to really evaluate the choices and decisions we have available to us, we react from a Healthier emotional space and rely less on impulsive decisions made from fear instead of Self-Love.

Always remember that we are Beautiful Souls who are ALL Worthy of Unconditional Love on the most fundamental of levels — and that we ALL came “here” to experience just that!

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Previous articles by Jennifer:

About the author:

Jennifer Deisher has been sharing her gift of empathetic soul readings since her awakening, which converted her traumas into Experiences that unlocked the authentic Blueprints of the Soul. Today, her unique insight and connectedness with Spirit allows her to guide others into their True Self.

Jennifer believes the art of human connection has been conditioned into detachment from our True Self, which consequently denies us the essential Blueprints of our evolution. Driven to share her perspective with the world, her writing has been published on numerous websites around the world. She is also a media writer for The New Earth Project, and founded the website BlueprintsForButterflies to help others connect with their Higher Self and create a spiritual foundation in line with their own individual energy signature.

For more information please visit BlueprintsForButterflies.com and check out NewEarthNation.org.

The Ties That Bind – Releasing Toxic Relationships

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By Jennifer Deisher

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all barriers within yourself that you have built against it” ~ Rumi

Toxic relationships come in all forms and can be detrimental in so many ways, but they also offer the greatest opportunity for growth and learning. It’s within the mindset of growth that we can begin to navigate and resolve relationship toxicity issues in order to release and move on. This can be a very difficult thing to accomplish since the toxicity is much like a drop of ink that spoils the entire well, leaving a cellular toxicity, much like an allergic reaction, to this kind of abusive relationship. The poisoning of the well leaves us feeling “tainted” and eventually leaves behind a continuous cycle of grief in the emotions of denial, bargaining, anger, and pain – a cycle that can never lead to the Acceptance we seek in the form of Unconditional Love.

In the big picture, no one has “permission” to bring toxicity into our energy field unless we allow it. However, sometimes the toxicity sets in on a cellular level when this kind of relationship is born in childhood, before we have earliest memories or have even learned to communicate in some cases. It can become a challenge, learning to separate one’s own “energy” from the energy of the poisonous relationship, so it’s important to have insight into how to let go and/or navigate the relationship in a new and different way.

The Cycle of Toxicity

If one has never experienced Unconditional Love on an energetic level then one can become easily fooled into thinking they have found “love”, but oftentimes find it to be quite the opposite leaving behind a feeling of guilt or shame or fear, coupled with a feeling of being “unlovable”. This becomes especially apparent when one has suffered from some sort of abuse in childhood and never experienced the emotion of Unconditional Love. How can one know if we’ve truly found something we’ve never experienced?

Our relationships are a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves – our own Self Worth – and when we vacillate between toxicity and “love” we truly find ourselves in an unhealthy situation. The toxicity shows up in the form of hostility, aggression, conflicts, quarrels, judgement, and criticism among other things. The Clarity that we tend to find in these type of relationships typically comes in the form of the negativity it brings rather than a Positive, Loving outcome. Like a junkie seeking heroin, we find ourselves in an addictive situation alternating between the high when things are going well and the low when the shit hits the fan.

Many times we finds ourselves trying to “fix” and/or communicate with the other person, all while defending oneself against the “judgement” the relationship brings on – both judgement from the other person and judgement of Self for being in that situation in the first place. Usually both parties who participate in these relationships bring a great deal of emotional deflection and projection, meaning that they project their emotions onto the other person when these emotions are actually coming from Self. This pattern is ironic as they typically also deflect or are in denial of the very emotions they are projecting onto the other person. It’s a truly ruthless cycle to break.

These relationships are indeed a great distraction from focusing on Self and finding the painfully missing piece one lacks withIN. One has to be willing to seek awareness of and identify with their own patterns, in order to Heal and become Whole. We have to remember that there are other addictions besides “substances”, and just because it’s familiar doesn’t mean it’s good for us.

It Starts Within

Forgiveness is key in any relationship that has had turmoil or is “ending”. However, just because we have found the Art of Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean we can continue to indulge in the relationship without being vulnerable, much like mixing oil and vinegar. First, we have to recognize that which we are bringing to the table and learn to separate it from what the other person is bringing. Next, we have to realize that we are ALL worthy of Unconditional Love, and if the relationship is energetically toxic we may have no other choice but to walk away with Love and Gratitude in our Hearts.

The key is a deep understanding that sometimes we don’t get to have the relationships we were always hoping for with certain people in our Lives, but we experience them for a reason.

In order to manifest Unconditional Love into our Lives we have to be willing to receive it, no matter what form it takes. Frequently, when we cannot make a relationship work the way we want, we tend to think of the relationship and ourselves as having “failed” at Love. This is just a matter of perspective and can be shifted if we Allow ourselves to release all conditions and expectations in the relationship, while looking at the relationship as an opportunity to remove the blocks that keep us from finding Unconditional Love, specifically in the form we are looking for.

Everything we seek to find can be found withIN so it’s important to create boundaries, both energetically and otherwise. Remember, no ONE can hurt you emotionally without your permission so it’s essential to separate oneself with Intention. This can be done by declaring to Self that this person no longer has your permission to speak or act a certain way since they do not have your best interests at Heart; this declaration should also be done on a Spiritual level and/or in meditation etc.

Intending a separation of energy is crucial because the way the toxicity presents itself is usually a very chronic process whereas our Awareness of the situation becomes clouded slowly. This is confusing because although the relationship tends to start off as seemingly Happy it progressively becomes unmanageable, leaving one wondering when and where things went “wrong”. This is precisely the reason why continuing to indulge one’s SELF in the negativity cannot possibly bring the Loving relationship that you seek.

In the Art of Bushido a true “warrior” is asked to find Gratitude when a weakness is exposed, as it gives them an Opportunity to reinforce their armor, if you will. A toxic relationship is where we find the same kind of opportunity for Gratitude and Growth. But we must remove our own energy from the energy of the poisonous interaction, and change it, in order to release the ties that bind.

Remember, we are all Worthy of Loving and Healthy relationships. Wherever you find yourself in your relationships today, please Remember that you are so very Beautiful, Worthy, and Loved.

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Jennifer Deisher has been sharing her gift of empathetic soul readings since her awakening, which converted her traumas into Experiences that unlocked the authentic Blueprints of the Soul. Today, her unique insight and connectedness with Spirit allows her to guide others into their True Self.

Jennifer believes the art of human connection has been conditioned into detachment from our True Self, which consequently denies us the essential Blueprints of our evolution. Driven to share her perspective with the world, her writing has been published on numerous websites around the world. She is also a media writer for The New Earth Project, and founded the website BlueprintsForButterflies to help others connect with their Higher Self and create a spiritual foundation in line with their own individual energy signature.

For more information please visit BlueprintsForButterflies.com and check out NewEarthNation.org.

 

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